In my novel Boy & Girl, Peter, the main character grows from a shy, retiring young boy who constantly stands outside the group looking in, to someone others look up to and go to for advice and help as the story plunges him into the heart of action. Despite himself, he becomes a leader, but not one of your military style leaders, all command and control, rather someone who listens, who serves others, and in thoughtfully serving, gives direction and guidance.
There is a fascinating series of short videos with some of the most powerful woman in the UK, one of which is about leadership. Their approach to leading corresponds much better to that of Peter than that of the traditional male role. The whole series of videos is made by BBC Woman’s Hour and is well worth watching.